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005: Dating Standards and the Four Loves — Rev. Thomas G. Morrow, STD

December 14, 2019 By Thomas Schmierer, Catholic Therapist, LMFT

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Looking for advice on Catholic dating? Our guest in this episode is Fr. Thomas Morrow, leading expert on Christian dating & marriage preparation and author of several books, including Christian Courtship in An Oversexed World (now titled Christian Dating in A Godless World). In this episode, Fr. Morrow addresses the following:

  • Why was the title of his book Christian Courtship in an Oversexed World changed to Christian Dating in a Godless World?
  • What are the four loves in the Greek language?
  • How do these four loves relate to dating and marital relationships?
  • How important is affection in marriage?
  • What ways of being affectionate are appropriate for dating relationships?
  • How much intimacy is good in a dating relationship, i.e. courtship?
  • What is the difference between mere sexual intimacy vs. personal intimacy?
  • What is the best way to run a young adult or singles ministry?
  • What is the difference between the world’s path to finding a spouse and the Catholic path?
  • Where can single women find single men who are faithful Catholics?
  • Should a faithful Catholic date a marginal or non-Catholic and why?
  • How can a Catholic single find Mr. or Mrs. Right?
  • What is a tangible benefit of fostering and maintaining chastity during courtship?
  • Should anyone try to convert their romantic interest to the Catholic faith?
  • How important is it to go to daily Mass when single?
  • How does the Mass compare to the other sacraments?
  • What role does oxytocin and testosterone play in pre-marital sexual relations?
  • What do you do if your boyfriend or girlfriend asks about past sins?
  • How long should I date someone before getting married?
  • Is it good to get rid of pre-conversion friends and find new faithful Catholic friends when you have a seriously sinful past?
  • How important is it if your boyfriend or girlfriend treats certain others poorly as long as he or she treats you well?
  • Is it good to have high standards when dating?
  • What standards should you set when choosing whom to date?
  • How do the principles of Sexaholics Anonymous line up with Catholic moral teachings on sexuality?
  • Can attending Sexaholics Anonymous meetings really help those with an addiction to pornography overcome their addicition?

Rev. Thomas G. Morrow, STD’s site information:

  • Catholic Faith Alive!, Inc.: https://cfalive.com/
  • Achieving Chastity in a Pornographic World: https://cfalive.com/pages/achieving-chastity-in-a-pornographic-world

Resources referenced by Rev. Thomas G. Morrow, STD:

  • Hephzibah Anderson, Chastened: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/307053/chastened-by-hephzibah-anderson/
  • John van Epp, How to Avoid Marrying a Jerk: https://www.mhprofessional.com/9780071548427-usa-how-to-avoid-falling-in-love-with-a-jerk-group
  • Film, Fireproof: http://www.affirmfilms.com/movie/fireproof/

Featured image photo credit: Jeswin Thomas from Pexels.


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About Thomas Schmierer, Catholic Therapist, LMFT

Thomas Schmierer (pronounced "shmeer") is a licensed marriage and family therapist. He is a faithful Catholic who helps individuals, couples, and families in pain to experience deep personal and relational healing by using the top faith and evidence-based treatments so that they can live out their unique vocations to love with ever greater peace, holiness, and joy. He has been seeing clients since 2008. Healing and Peace is the name of Thomas's private practice and his blog. His office is in Oceanside, CA, but he also offers therapy services over the phone/Skype (online) for clients located in AZ, CA, KS, FL, NJ, & WY and Catholic life and relationship coaching services for clients worldwide. His CA license number is 80450. Thomas graduated summa cum laude from Holy Apostles College & Seminary with an M.A. in Moral Theology in 2009 and tries to understand what Sacred Scripture and Sacred Tradition have to tell us about how to go about our everyday living. He has a special interest in the writings of St. Thomas Aquinas, St. Benedicta of the Cross, and St. Pope John Paul II's Theology of the Body and enjoys trying to break down complicated theological concepts to make them more accessible and useful for the average lay Catholic. He is also the creator of the Healing and Peace Blog: Your Catholic Guide Through the Trials of Life.

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